In one of my most popular videos, I sit down with my daughter, then 13, to learn her thoughts on what makes a powerful woman. What followed reminded me why I do the work that I do, and how my daughter remains one of my most enduring teachers.
(And as if that’s not enough yummy goodness - stay tuned for the not-to-be-missed dance antics that follow the interview, starting at about 6:51).
A 13-year-old defines what it means to be a powerful woman
Naturally, since my daughter “T” has always been a powerful leader - from the time she kicked in my womb whenever I would cross my legs, as if to say, “Um, mother, you are so in my space right now!” - she manages to ask the first question, wondering what my blog is about.
Good question. I explain that:
It’s about helping women to connect with their femininity, in order to lead more powerfully and love more passionately. Because I believe that’s a missing piece in our culture.
Putting the powerful woman “in her place” is so engrained in our culture, words like bossy take on a life of their own. (Ever notice how little boys are never labeled bossy? Just girls).
Me: I envision a future where [girls] can speak [their] opinion, without being labeled bossy.
T: So you mean, women are labeled bossy, where men with the same traits are labeled leaders?
Me: Pretty much.
T: That sucks.
I couldn’t agree more. I ask T about her writing (at 13, she’s already a talented author, read by many on on Wattpad, an online forum for reading and sharing stories worldwide), and how, if she were creating a character that she considered a “powerful woman,” what that would look like.
Our conversation ranged from powerful female characters, to how girls deal with gossip in school, to how we can learn how to support each other - even in an environment as hierarchical as middle school.
The high-level takeaways from our conversation:
A powerful woman is strong. She doesn’t take anything from anyone. She stands up for herself and the ones she loves.
A powerful woman supports other women. Positively affirming another girl can be seen as crossing a line. Except: we create those lines ourselves.