But before you roll your eyes back in your head, and say, yeah right, little miss Positive Thinking, that is NOT when I feel like dancing… Let me explain what I mean.
This is not about wiping back the tears and sucking it up. This is NOT about stuffing or even “releasing” your “negative” emotions – as if they’re something to “get rid of.”
This is about letting your tear-gasms flow and feeling the full expression of your gorgeous, resplendent, powerful emotions.
Your feelings are trying to tell you something. And when we try to skip over the “bad” stuff to get to the “good” stuff, we lose a piece of ourselves in the process.
This is about dancing through your grief… or rage… or pain… or fear. (Sometimes, right there, flat on the floor where life has laid you OUT). Because sometimes she does.
There is a myth out there – the myth of the constantly, effortlessly, blissed-out woman who has all her shit together, for whom everything is great; she’s got the husband and the 2.3 kids and the great job and all the money she could wish for and no cellulite whatsoever.
She, my loves, is a freaking MYTH. She does not exist. (And we wouldn’t even want her to.)
You are gorgeous, flawed, multidimensional, perfect, in exactly who you are, right now. Every scar, gray hair and crow’s foot, every emotion – “good,” “bad” or “ugly” included. I don’t believe there is a “bad” one – what is life if not experience, which is contrast: how can we know what we desire, what our preferences are, if we don’t experience the opposite?
Your emotional range is part of what makes you powerful, not weak, as we’ve been taught. It is one of your feminine superpowers. “You’re just too emotional,” you’ve been told. Turns out, that is a lie. The reality is that feelings are our first indicator – an immediate, visceral litmus test that says, HELL YES! Or HELL NO!
It is in fact our capacity to feel that will heal our families, our relationships, our bodies…
our planet. Our feelings carry precious wisdom – the wisdom of discernment. The wisdom of compassion. The wisdom of the woman warrior’s rage – or the grieving mother’s sorrow. That’s how vitally important your feelings are.
And in terms of capacity, the vessel is your body. She is your highest intelligence, and will know exactly how to move your body to squeeze the juice out of what your feelings want to tell you.
So, watch today’s video, in which I share an excerpt from my Claim Your Feminine course: an overview of a tool that I teach on how to move the emotions through, swamping – a term coined by Mama Gena of the School of Womanly Arts, but that also reflects ancient dance rituals for releasing deep emotion that I learned as a bellydancer.
Try this practice on. It will feel awkward at first – and that’s ok. Allow yourself to stumble through – and as you gain practice, you will gain confidence, and the messages from your body will come through more and more clearly. Then, let me know in the comments: Is it good for you too? What questions arise?
When we begin to truly feel and experience our emotions, then we get to meet the revealed dreams and passions that lay underneath them – and clear the path to receive what we truly desire.
With so much love,
p.s. I am here for you! If, as you’re trying this new tool, you have questions or insights around which you’d like more clarity, I invite you to schedule a complimentary clarity call with me. I’m all about real life and business strategies for modern-day goddesses - because the world needs all of who you are.
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